For Every Action, There is a Reaction

As I've mentioned, my husband is in the hospital. It started with a question of his continued presence on this planet, and is ending with necessary lifestyle and dietary changes.

This came on the heels of him shattering his elbow just before Thanksgiving. I had no idea how to react to this. At first, we did not realize how dangerous his sudden sickness was, so I did nothing to disguise my frustration at what I saw as getting stuck with taking care of him for another six weeks.

This was not exactly a generous reaction, nor am I proud of it. At first, though, I felt trapped and that it wasn't my fault I was frustrated. Then I realized that yes, I was responsible for my reactions, just as I was responsible for my thoughts and my actions.

How many times have we allowed ourselves to shirk responsibility for our reactions because we saw them as not being our fault?

It was very humbling to realize the depth of the perception of my helplessness. How could I possibly have thought I was trapped?

I accepted many years ago that I have complete responsibility for my actions, and more recently, accepted responsibility for my thoughts and the energy generated thereby. As a result, I try to stay aware of what I do, and how I present myself. This new realization took me to a whole new place.

Many times in my life, I've felt trapped, or that I was doing things over which I had no control. It wasn't my fault that others did bad things to me and I resented them. It wasn't my fault that others created situations from which I had difficulty removing myself. It wasn't my fault that I didn't understand how to handle things.

I was wrong.

My epiphany caught me off-guard. I was in my husband's cubby in the emergency room, listening to him moan, and desparate for insights. No one knew what was wrong with him, and I couldn't help. Needing to separate myself from my helplessness, I walked over to the nurse's station. There, I chatted, laughed, and provided comfort to the nurses who felt they were trapped by their addiction to nicotine. That's when it happened. They were no more trapped in their situation than I was. It was just how we viewed ourselves, our circumstances and our lives.

How often have you felt you were trapped, powerless, or had no choice? How would you, when you're feeling strong, advise a friend when they feel trapped? Would you tell them to stay the way they are, or would you help them find the strength to take back their personal power?

And that is the point. You are able to do for yourself what you do for your friends. If you are willing to be gentle, supportive and helpful, you can move mountains. You are responsible for your thoughts. You are responsible for your actions. You are responsible for your reactions. You have the power and the privilege. Each of us does. How amazing is that?

Allow yourself to be patient and to be true to yourself. Remember to take at least five minutes every day to simply be by yourself and breathe. Allow yourself to indulge in a moment of thought, reflection, and planning when the mood strikes. It's your life, your choice. Allow yourself to simply succeed on your own terms, to live in peace, abundance, and joy. One day, one decision at a time, remaining aware of your choices and your feelings. You CAN get there.

And, as always, if you need help, I'm available. It's what I do, and it's what I love to do.

Sharon.

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