Coach Sharon's Newsletters for 2012

The Song of Our Souls

Have you ever walked on a path, one you've known for many years, and be taken by surprise by the sight or sound of something you had never noticed before? This happens to me all the time. I absolutely love reliving the thrill of discovery each time this happens. An unexpected flower, a single illuminated leaf, a pawprint in snow, or even a song playing that I haven't heard in years. I've talked about visual beauty here before, and I'm sure I will again, but this week's magic was derived from hearing songs I had forgotten I loved.

Many, many years ago, I was in love with someone, and we listened to music together all of the time. It was one of the key elements of our relationship - so much so, I stopped listening to much of that music when our love affair ended. To be fair, it wasn't completely because we ended, but because I never owned my own stereo. Without others' stereos, the richness of LPs was lost to me, and in this case, so was the music. Oddly enough, until last week, I didn't realize the crucial role music has always played in my life.

I love so many types of music, and each is tied up in memories of many kinds. Bagpipes, fiddles and accordians are triggers for memories long hot summer days at Irish dance competitions. Concert band music has expanded from wonderful high school memories to include my son's concerts and aspirations. Orchestral music has grown from safety and beauty to include my daughter's joy in playing violin. Certain music groups remind me of different groups of friends, my youth or movies. To my mind, music is the audible expression of emotion, creativity and life. It has the ability to transport us to different worlds, different lives and different times. It has a power that is impossible to deny.

What about you? Has music played a role in your life? Does it remind you of misspent youth, or of days watching the same children's movie repeatedly, or of loved ones who have passed on? Wouldn't you, just once, like to be able to touch someone's heart, mind, soul or very being the way a song can touch yours?

We often seek to have that role or to work that magic in the one we perceive as our true love or soul mate. Despite obstacles placed by others, we insist that love can solve all problems, heal all wounds, and survive all trials. Then, life intervenes, and we forget. We forget the magic we thought they spun around us, and we forget the magic we promised to create for them. Until we hear that song, and we stop and in that moment, for a moment, remember.

Sometimes, when we realize that we forgot, we become angry; perhaps with ourselves, perhaps with your lover, perhaps with life. It's utterly shocking, isn't it? Realizing you forgot the magic of your love.

I'm the first to admit that you can't recapture innocence. Once lost, it truly is gone forever, and that's really a good thing. Likewise, when we move beyond the initial flush of a new love, or even of real love, it can be a good thing. It can mean that we've moved into a deeper, more meaningful relationship, or it can mean that we've grown apart. If that is the case, then we face the choice of do we stay or do we go? Do we accept that things have changed and work to create a new relationship or do we end things because our relationship is no longer what we thought we wanted?

What is the right answer?

Honestly, there are no single right answers. There are, however, many right choices, and no matter what choice you make, you will, this time, be making a conscious choice. And yes, this takes the magic out of it, but it does make the choice so much more real, and so much more a true part of you.

And with that, you move forward in your life, finding magic in different things, finding magic in new moments and living your life a bit more consciously.

Until you hear that song again, and you remember the old magic, and it becomes real again for three minutes and twenty-nine seconds. And sometimes, it really is enough.

Allow yourself to be patient and to be true to yourself. Remember to take at least five minutes every day to simply be by yourself and breathe. Allow yourself to indulge in a moment of thought, reflection, and planning when the mood strikes. It's your life, your choice. Allow yourself to simply succeed on your own terms, to live in peace, abundance, and joy. One day, one decision at a time, remaining aware of your choices and your feelings. You CAN get there.

And, as always, if you would like a friend to share your path for a time, let me know. I'm available. It's what I do, and it's what I love to do.

Sharon.

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